Feeling beloved is not the way for your self-worth

I used to flirt a lot of women. Feeling their love on me, makes me feel better about myself. I was selfish. And that did not help in a long run.

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This is embarrassing to tell. But I want to tell it to everyone. Because I know there are a lot of men out there did this too. We’ve been compared and told that if you could get a lot of women in bed, then you’re talented, everyone admired you. You feel like you are important, special. And in fact, it’s fun too.

But it’s not fair for the women. I knew that many of them deserved someone better. Someone truly loved them.

And indeed, after I got their heart. I did not feel good. I felt bad about myself. I felt guilty. And that did not help them or myself.

As I got older, I realized that got a lot of women in bed did not really matter. The only matter thing is the braveness to truly go after what you want in life. For me, it is traveling, working remotely while enjoy the cities I was traveling. Find the life-purpose in getting woman heart is not the way. In fact, it is self-fish and immature.

Go after your dream. And you might choose the only one girl to do that with you.


A passionate automation engineer who strongly believes in “A man can do anything he wants if he puts in the work”.

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